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At the moment.. not.
Went to Trans-Mission at the weekend, with Jane. The first time she's been ever, the first time I've been in ages.
It was a really good night. Trans-Mission is like my "gentleman's club" now, somewhere that I'm guaranteed a good night out in London. Except with "ladies" instead of gentlemen, and more dancing, and less pipe-smoking.
It's a commonly-used phrase by jaded trannies that Trans-Mission (TX) and it's ilk are just "extensions of the closet", places where a tranny can come out without really "coming out". That's not really true. When I first went to TX it was a huge deal for me, and it didn't feel like staying in the closet. Just because I don't "need" TX as a safe haven now doesn't mean it's still a huge deal for other new trannies. To say it's "just" an extension of the closet lessens what a venue like TX offers.
I don't go as much as I used to, but TX definitely isn't "below me", it's a fab venue, I'd recommend it to all trannies, newbie or not, and frequently do. And if I lived up the road I'd definitely go more often, just for the craic!
At the moment.. not.
Went to Trans-Mission at the weekend, with Jane. The first time she's been ever, the first time I've been in ages.
It was a really good night. Trans-Mission is like my "gentleman's club" now, somewhere that I'm guaranteed a good night out in London. Except with "ladies" instead of gentlemen, and more dancing, and less pipe-smoking.
It's a commonly-used phrase by jaded trannies that Trans-Mission (TX) and it's ilk are just "extensions of the closet", places where a tranny can come out without really "coming out". That's not really true. When I first went to TX it was a huge deal for me, and it didn't feel like staying in the closet. Just because I don't "need" TX as a safe haven now doesn't mean it's still a huge deal for other new trannies. To say it's "just" an extension of the closet lessens what a venue like TX offers.
I don't go as much as I used to, but TX definitely isn't "below me", it's a fab venue, I'd recommend it to all trannies, newbie or not, and frequently do. And if I lived up the road I'd definitely go more often, just for the craic!
Vicky, Jasmine and the team do a great job. One of the few places you're almost guaranted to see a familiar face. And a great place to meet new people.
And just because its a venue which is catering specifically for trannies doesnt mean its not still scary as hell when you're starting out. It might be totally supportive in the club, but you've still got to make that journey to the club in the first place. And I for one used to find that seriously scary.
And as to the coming out thing. I dont see going to a mainsteam club as being any more "Out" then going to TX. To me being Out is about being open with the people in your life about the fact that you're a trannie. Being visible in your social life is a big step in that direction, but strangers in a club, are still strangers whether its TX or somewhere mainstream.
I think it is a superb venue and those that moan about it seem to think that you aren't properly out unless you are surrounded by the rest of the general public.
Also, even though I didn't debut there, my first trip there was the first time I had walked down a (fairly) busy street and the first time i had eaten in a normal resturant.
And Lisa good luck with yout debut. The nerves will dissapear as soon as get to your venue and start dancing...or drinking...er or both.
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